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Redeem Yourself from a Painful Break-Up

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Breaking up and saying goodbye to someone you were once close to and completely in love with is really painful.

There are many of us who have been there.

Our hearts have all been broken. When it happens to you, it’s heartbreaking and will make you feel insane. The pain is becoming more painful each day. You may feel utterly powerless at times, as if you will never be able to overcome your suffering.

You expected your relationship to last forever. You saw a future with this person, you trusted this person, you invested in this relationship, and you had a lot of fun together. But, for whatever reason, that relationship is no longer working. And now you’re back to square one, single, lonely, and yearning. After a breakup, you often feel unhappy and devastated, full of fear and dread.

Some people believe that nothing is more terrible than the feelings that come after a breakup, and that healing takes time. The wonderful moments must be mourned, and the sentiments of loss and grief must be allowed to surface. Feeling your feelings is the only way to go through this process.

While remembering the good moments is a natural part of grieving the loss of a relationship, focusing solely on the good times might make getting over the relationship more difficult. Because one spends so much time thinking about the good times and fantasizing about what could have been, one’s perceptions of the relationship can become skewed, allowing imagination to take precedence over reality.

You must understand that getting over a breakup may appear impossible, but it is simply a matter of time. The most important things to remember are that there are people who care about you and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there.    Here are a few suggestions to help you along the way. 

Steps You Can Take to Heal from Breakup

Here are a few suggestions to help you get back on track to finding serenity and happiness.

1. Remove all connections and contacts. 

What is it for you?

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This is, without a doubt, the most important guideline in a breakup. Maintain a safe distance and do not text, email, meet in person, or contact. You should definitely remove them from Facebook and any other social media platforms while you’re at it. This does not have to be permanent, but it is preferable not to have their voice in your brain when you are open to any harsh or, conversely, kind remarks. The risk of re-entering a relationship that was no longer working is significant.

You might also wind up in a verbal fight, generating much more pain and stress. When it’s finished, cutting the connections for good puts you on a quicker pathway to recovery.

2. Express Your Emotions.

Why?

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Cry, sob, shout, and scream your heart out. Find ways to release and let go of whatever pain you may be experiencing, as long as it does not cause harm to yourself or others. When people tell you, politely and hilariously, that all breakups are difficult, it’s because they are. If you take this portion of the healing process away from yourself, it will fester and develop within you. No matter how simple or difficult a breakup was, you will naturally experience some negative feelings. Respect your emotions and realize that the more you express them, the less intense they will become. It assists you in getting over them!

3. Accept that it is over, at least for the time being.

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Why?

Staying away from that individual can help you achieve acceptance much faster. This technique is more dependent on time than anything else, but there are ways to expedite it. Even if you didn’t consent to the split, try to look at the issue objectively. Don’t obsess about what may have been different. There is an unlimited number of should-haves and could-haves, and thinking about them will send you into a tailspin. When you were in the relationship, your actions were significant. They no longer do. Your objective now is to get to a point where you aren’t arguing with yourself about how things are. Do this with compassion, and don’t be too hard on yourself. It may take some time for the emotions to catch up with reality, but accept that the relationship has finished for the time being.

4. Try new things and Have Fun

Why?

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Get your friends together and go out when you’re ready to have some real fun again. Go out for travel  and have some fun . Do something that makes you happy, makes you laugh, and makes you feel good on the inside. Be goofy and spontaneous. Have fun with your life.

5. Enjoy your singlehood for a while and avoid entering another relationship that easily. 

Why?

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Don’t rush into another relationship under the impression that you’re fine. It’s certainly the most convenient solution, but you’ll never truly forget about your ex. Don’t make yourself suffer all over and protect your new partner’s feelings as well. You will eventually just end up hurting each other. You’re just prolonging the inevitable pain.

Above all enjoy and devote your most precious time to those who actually matter, your family, friends, and God.

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