Most of the time, people choose to remain imprisoned in bitterness because they have suffered sorrow, disappointment, betrayal, loneliness, worry, and discouragement. People take advantage of us and damage our sentiments when we are already attached to them. We undeniably feel these feelings because we have the ability to feel the Psalms of life.
Forgiving those who have harmed us is a critical step in moving ahead and living a calm and happy life. Ephesians 4:31-32 say that “let all the bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. We should learn to forgive because God forgave us first. The book of 1 John verse 1-9 says that the Lord is faithful and just to forgive us. He has already set a good example for others to follow. When we sin, we beg God for forgiveness, which indicates we acknowledge Him as our forgiving God. Forgiving people when they made mistakes provided us a lot of peace. Furthermore, we must never forget that anyone who despises his brother is a murderer. As a result, we must learn to forgive since God desires that we love one another.
Why do we need to forgive?
The core of the gospel is forgiveness. Colossians 3:13 states, “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” We were born sinners against God, but He loved us enough to send Christ, His Son to die for us.
In the same manner, we must forgive those who do wrong, not only those who beg forgiveness, or who are the first offenders, or whose mistakes seem to be forgiving. In Matthew 18, Jesus famously instructed Peter to forgive anyone “seventy times seven” times, saying that if we do not forgive others our Heavenly Father will not forgive us (Matthew 6:15).
Forgiving others is first and foremost an act of obedience; nevertheless, we must also forgive people in order to avoid becoming bitter. Resentment is a dangerous feeling that harms us far more than those who have offended us or anybody else.
When we let go of unforgiveness and all the bitterness and anger that comes with it, we are liberated to live and serve with genuine peace and pleasure, and to develop spiritually. The Bible states this in Hebrews 12:15, “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it, many become defiled.”
What is the best way to forgive?
So, how can we accomplish this seemingly difficult act of “letting go”? Even if we want it, our emotions might explode at any time and overwhelm us with rage and pain.
Forgiving people in the same manner we have received God’s forgiveness is impossible in our own power, but with God, nothing is impossible, and with His Spirit inside us, we may go through a process that leads to real forgiveness.
Pray for the person who has wronged you
Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:44 to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” In your heart, ask God to show his love for your offender and to erase bad emotions. Is there a more compelling testament to God’s changing grace than someone who can demonstrate genuine forgiveness to the “unforgivable?”
With promises like Philippians 4:13 (“I can do all this through Him who gives me strength”) and Romans 12:21 (“Do not be overwhelmed by evil, but overcome evil with good”), we know we can rely on God to provide us with the grace to live out forgiveness. Make the correct decision and embark on a path of forgiveness today, asking the Lord to equip you for this tough yet eternally rewarding job.